The D word…


This is a letter to all of those who don’t feel like they measure up because of that big fat “D” word that has continually crippled so many people…

The D word that I am referring to is divorced.

How many of you have walked away from God, from the Church, from your friends, etc… How many of us have ran from our callings & feel like that word will always define us? I know I struggled with it for a long time. I struggled with the condemnation that comes with that word & the lack of self-worth that comes with feeling like a complete failure, feeling like I am not good enough and that I am no longer worthy of what God has for me in this life…. We are all called to serve and love those around us to the best of our abilities.

Who do I truly think that our God is? Is God really put in a box that something can happen to us that “disables” us from being able to preach His Gospel to everyone? Goodness, it is foolish to think that. It is foolish to believe that we are defined by one word outside of the name Jesus.

JESUS is the word that defines who you are… Not divorced. Jesus is your Redeemer, the Redeemer of ALL things this world can throw at us. Being divorced does not disable you to be able to minister and love on other people in the world that are broken and need Jesus. In some cases, it enables you to be able to shine a bit brighter for other believers who have experienced the unfortunate hurt that comes with being divorced.

The church as a whole has done a terrible job of meeting people in the midst of a struggle & trial. Just like when dealing with homosexuality, murder, adultery, etc… We as believers must always approach every situation with love & grace followed by the truth. The same love & grace that we have been given. The truth is, we should learn to embrace our past and thank Him for bringing us through that, or thank Him that He WILL bring you through it.

It is never too late to start again. Each and every day God’s mercies are made anew for us all. He is a redeeming God. We are all sinners in need of grace and God is working on all of our hearts… I myself am a divorced man. A man who deals with the hurts and “demons” that come along with living with that word in my “resume”.

The enemy has used that word to try and destroy everything that God has in this life & at times I forget that that is no longer a “wound” in my life but actually a “scar” that tells a story.

Friends… Our scars tell a story about all that the enemy has tried to destroy in our lives but was unsuccessful. That’s a fact. It’s a fact that the enemy threw one of the deepest possible “disablers” at us. It’s a fact that although no one truly knows the deep hurts that come with each individual scar that ultimately God does.

Embrace your scars. Embrace them and be proud of the story that is being told by the scars where the enemy TRIED to destroy you but did not succeed. You are loved by Him. Regardless of the choices, you have made, or the choices another made.

Love wins fam…. Grace wins…


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